Thursday, June 13, 2013

That Awkward Thursday (13) Un-Official Book Blogger Rules

That Awkward Thursday is a feature hosted by Wholly Books where it's not only okay but encouraged to share your awkward moments!

That awkward moment you realize you are blogging wrong...

Okay, this title should have been that awkward moment you realize you are blogging wrong/someone tells you that you are blogging wrong but I didn't realize that until about 5 minutes ago. A while back I began seeing all of these post by bloggers telling other bloggers not to listen to people telling them they are blogging wrong. Apparently, there were people going around trying to tell other people how to blog. Personally, I think it's weird, not to mention rude. 

I mean why do you care how I blog? It's MY blog, not yours so it shouldn't effect your life in any way, shape or form. If you don't like it don't read it. It's pretty simple.

However, while there isn't a right or a wrong way to blog in my opinion, there is a certain standard that bloggers in the community have. In my opinion, these standards fall into two categories. 1) The No-brainers 2) The Un-official Book Blogger Rules (Yes, I totally made both of these categories up but bear with me!) 

The No-brainers are just that no brainers. Like, don't copy other people's stuff and don't request a ton of books and never review them. These are the rules that you would think everyone would agree on and follow but unfortunately that's not always the case. 

Now, The Un-Official Book Blogger Rules are unofficial rules that other bloggers expect you to follow. You are expected to comment on other people's blogs. You should have new content at least 5 times a week, preferably every day. You must be active on social media. You should participate in memes (but not too many). You should participate in blog tours and book blasts (but again not too many). Host giveaways but don't require a follow. 

It really is this long list of things you're expected to do. BUT then you are also expected to be original and stand out. When there are 50 billion things you're supposed to do how does that even work? 

Honestly, I really don't know. The thing is I struggle with getting content up. I'm actually writing this post at 11 pm on Wednesday. I have a full time job and a kid. I don't always have time to follow all of the unofficial book blogger rules. I don't have time to comment on other people's blogs every day (though I am trying to comment at least once a week). I'm not as active on social media as I would like. I try to tweet and facebook the links to my posts but I don't always get to interactive with other people. I try to but it all boils down to time. 

Basically, I feel like this post is a little all over the place but the bottom line is do whatever you want. Follow the rules, don't follow them. It's your blog do it however you want. And if you're like me and have limited time, write incoherent posts an hour before you need to post them and totally ROCK IT! 

Do you ever feel like you're blogging wrong? Is there a right way and a wrong way to blog? Do you think there is an unofficial book bloggers rule book? Let me know in the comments or create your own post and leave the link in the comments. 


  1. Yup I feel exactly the same way! I never promote my blog because it's mainly for me and my friend so she can see what I'm up to while she's in a different city. It shouldn't matter to people how you do your blog. As long as you're happy with it, who cares! Also, I always do all my blogging the day before at around 12am... You're not along haha.
    Here's my TAT.

  2. I don't really feel as if I'm blogging wrong, but I do often feel as if I'm blogging differently than a lot of other bloggers. Where as I don't hardly ever participate in weekly memes I know there are bloggers out there that do like 2-3 different memes per day and hardly ever post anything original from themselves. I know that's a popular trend, memes, and I do participate in a few every now and then, but I just can't do the whole "meme" too much. But I think that if you like what you're posting and how you're blogging that's all that matters.

    I blog randomly and post randomly, lol. I like it and it works for me. ;)

    1. The only two memes I do are Top Ten Tuesday and Waiting on Wednesday. I don't do them every week but I do them fairly frequently. I do this post on Thursdays then try to fill the other days in with interviews, guest posts, and reviews. There's no way I could keep up with doing 2-3 a day! I'm lucky if I get one post a day.

      So glad you found what works for you! Continue to ROCK IT! lol

  3. I know once I started really paying attention to the big name bloggers I started to feel like I was blogging wrong. But like you said, over time I realized it's my blog and I have to do what I want. But doing it the "right" way does tend to get more followers/traffic. Like doing original posts instead of just memes, commenting on other blogs, etc. I like your blog just the way it is though! Especially these feature you've started. Keep doing what you're doing because it's great.

    1. Thank you! You are awesome! Also, I completely agree the "right" way does lead to more followers or maybe the really big blogs were just doing it before us and continue to gain a following. Who knows? I'm just going to keep doing me and see where it goes!

  4. Ahhh the unofficial blogger rules. It's so true. Everyone's blog is so different that there are definitely unofficial guidelines but I agree -- I don't think anyone can possibly TELL someone else how to blog (unless someone's committing a HUGE no-no) although sometimes I do like advice posts. Even those are tricky because I DO love how different everyone's blogs are. That's what makes them stand out!
    Personally I like to think that the quality of the content is more important than the number of posts you put up in a week (this coming from a person who posts 5 times a week so that's probably irrelevant haha) but I would much rather read some really good posts and only 2-3 times a week than fillers and rushed posts! I think one thing that new bloggers don't realize is that blogging is A LOT OF WORK. Of course I hadn't when I first started it as a small, small hobby. Once I started really getting into it, I started reading more and adding more posts and doing more features and it really does take a ton of time! Something I had no idea about... But then again, that's my choice of how I like to do my blog and not everyone has to get so deep into it.
    I'm rambling again. Anyway, to make a long story longer -- I AGREE haha. I say people should do whatever they want with their blog. It's supposed to be fun, so do what you want. People who like it will read it and if someone doesn't like my blog? Well, I'm not forcing them to read it! Of course I like coming up with things that people will enjoy, but I would rather have someone not read my blog if they don't like it. Not everyone will like everything. Simple as that!
    Okay, I'm going to stop now. Sorry this was so rambly. Gosh, I need more coffee this morning haha!!!

    1. Agreed! A few posts with great content is better than 50 with so-so content! I love that you do all of these different features and do events and readalongs. Plus, you always have the most amazing graphics for your posts! That's something I wish I could do!

  5. Very good post! Sometimes the unofficial blogger rules are a little bit daunting. Like I just want to gush about my favorite books with people. I didn't know I was expected to WORK. But, that being said, I think those "rules" we all think we have to follow are sort of no brainers. You want people to comment on your blog? You have to comment on them. You want to connect with people? You have to go to where they are.

    I think it's hard when there are SO MANY bloggers out there and some seem to be extra popular. It makes you think that you're doing something wrong. I've gone through those moments and beat myself up over it. I've tried to be more like them, do what they do. And you know what's happened? I started hated blogging. We all blog differently and we're all different people. So, I say do your own thing and love what you do. If you're not doing that, I think you have to question yourself about why you're blogging in the first place!

    1. Thank you! And yes it can be daunting and even a little depressing. You give it your all but then still fall short! That can definitely suck! But you're right at the end of the day you have to love what you're doing because it is definitely work!

  6. Sometimes those semi-incoherent posts can turn out to be amazing! Like, where did THAT come from?!!? LOL

    1. Yes, they can! I find that sleep deprivation actually helps my writing. lol.

  7. I completely understand. But you know what, it's YOUR blog. Be yourself. Be unique. It's what makes you Ashley. Don't allow yourself to be judged and critiqued on how YOU choose to control YOUR blogs. Who's to say that their rules are right, anyways?!?

    1. haha! Agreed! Maybe we're not doing it, maybe they are! lol.

  8. Ughh I hate rules. Official/Unofficial... I just hate em. But I do believe in fairness and being nice. If someone comments on my blog, I try really hard to stop be their blog and comment or at least look around. I really like advice posts from people who have been blogging for a long time, but I dislike it if they come off know-it-all-ey or bossy. Like this one time I read this advice post where the person was like "YOU HAVE TO POST EVERYDAY. PERIOD." And I really didnt appreciate this person telling me what I supposedly have to do w/ my own blog. Just because I don't post every single day doesn't mean my blog cant have a following and publishers wont ever send me books. Some people get a little bit of popularity on the blogosphere and it goes to their heads. It's not cool.

    Anyway I like this feature you have here, it's super interesting :)

    1. Yes! I hate those bossy posts! I mean I can respect that you have been doing this longer but at the same time don't try to tell me that your way is the only way! There is more than one way to get to a destination. Maybe I just want to take the long route, ya know? lol.


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